May is a month with some sadness for my family. It’s the month my grandfather passed away. I sat at the foot of his bed in the dark, early hours of that morning, rubbing his feet and singing him on. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I miss him all the time. Especially in May.
I’m sure you have months with similarly hard anniversaries.
-Ashley Fisher, thejoymidwife.com
The most important thing is that we honor our hearts and whatever it is we’re feeling as these anniversaries approach.
Today, let’s explore some simple and meaningful ways to honor loss. Things that take no extra time, which is especially important for mothers who struggle for time to sit still for anything! Our hearts still need care.
Five easy-to-do ideas:
-Make their favorite dinner and share some stories about them with your children while you eat.
-Grab a bouquet of flowers when you’re at the grocery store. Put them on your table as a reminder of their love for you, and yours for them.
-Plant a flower they loved if it’s garden season and you garden
-Talk to them as you drive to work (or write them a letter in present tense if you’ve got time)
-Call someone who also loved them and share some memories.
Want to do a bigger project in their honor? The website Love Lives On has over 100 ideas. I especially love their suggestion to buy a biodegradable sky lantern. You could even fill it with notes for them before sending it into the night.
The most important thing is that we honor our hearts and whatever it is we’re feeling as these anniversaries approach. There is no wrong feeling. No perfect timeline for grief. And no death for love so true. We are blessed.
****What about you? How do you remember your loved ones on the anniversary of their passing? Write a comment below or respond to another person’s comment. May our energy inspire and lift each other up.